hurt is a very negative word; mentally and physically. that’s why when jony mentioned this over dinner today, it got me thinking. she asked me what loving until it hurts means to me and i automatically related it to that strong feeling when you’ve just had an intense disagreement with a loved one, and through it all, all you know and care about is that you love them enough to forgive them and you believe and feel in your heart that love always prevails.
hurt i believe is the best word to describe the most positive emotion of all. it’s almost describing one extreme with the other. using hurt to describe love has got to be the strongest statement you can utter in your lifetime. no one in the world wants to be hurt physically or emotionally and to be able to make that connection in your relationship is defining. it’s a realization that no matter what happens the love you both share is unconditional.
loving until it hurts – means loving unconditionally in my vocabulary. loving without the expectation of receiving it in return. loving with knowing that you’re willing to accept the person wholly without limits. loving with knowing that the greatest risk you’re about to venture into may cause you pain and suffering at some point but you take that leap and force forward because you’re willing to give love until it pains you to do so.
in every relationship there will come a time that you won’t be able to agree on certain things. if you’re not feeling the love and you are certain of the disconnection you start feeling horrible and neglect. that’s when the hurting comes in and you think to yourself i love this person so much that i’m willing to accept that pain in my heart, mind, and soul. it’s taxxing but it’s got to be felt because if it doesn’t hurt, you’re not loving enough. don’t give up so easily, it takes time to feel that type of love within a relationship. but don’t be fooled by the type of hurt you feel, if you’re consistently hurting for all the wrong reasons, it’s best to set that love free.
Maybe there’s something you’re afraid to say, or someone you’re afraid to love, or somewherw you’re afraid to go. It’s gonna hurt. It’s gonna hurt because it matters. – John Green